the land of wannabes

I can't seem to understand why in Poland there persists the legitimized attitude which consists in proving to the individual that they're just not what they claim to be; what they think they are; what they wish to be. Just look at how both in formal and informal contexts people enjoy not calling each other the way the other person wishes to be named, but with the forms of address they simply want to utter or the ones found in the addressee's ID. And then you have the American official documents in which people can write the name they use next to the name given at birth – so this freedom of choice might actually be ex officio. But not here.
In Poland the problem exists in all sorts of realms in which individuals create their identities. They'll always have to face the wall built by the people around them, who are all too eager to point out what the individual lacks and why they'll never be good enough to achieve what they aspire to. Like the Anna Grodzka case. She's become a human shield for this Polack self-appointed jury – and thus a true heroine for she puts up with it pretty well. People consider the idiotic remarks of Law and Justice politicians just a joke, but in fact it's those dumb-asses' boorishness that prevents them from acknowledging a woman in her when she clearly feels a woman herself and functions as such according to the law. And it's not that it's just an issue of the province, from where many of the L&J politicians stem from, but it's in the big cities just as well. I've been living in Warsaw for five years now and I watch numerous circles of most interesting people with refreshing worldviews – circles which are most hermetic. Your own will and sympathizing with their ideas is just not enough to allow you to be let in. You need to have achieved something. You need to prove something.
Maybe it's just a matter of strength one needs to have to get themselves through it all.
Maybe bearing a grudge to the whole world for not being who one would like to be is just another form of the Polack carping attitude.
But I don't think I've just made up this lack of respect to the social face, which prevails in our interactions.
Live & let people live.
And as Winterson says: be kind.
Come on, it'll be fun.